By Geetika Walia
Jealousy is a waste, a wasted emotion! A jealous person is often an insecure person. A secure and a confident person has no room for jealousy or enviousness; he requires no validation from the external sources and therefore has no reason to hate, to be envious of others.
Yes, it's true that I don't get jealous. I have never experienced jealousy because I chose not to experience this emotion. As humans, we do experience plethora of emotions like happiness, anxiety, anger, sadness et al. But I think the best thing about the 'jealousy' as an emotion is that we can always turn this emotion off; you can choose not to get affected by it. We can always redirect this emotion for our betterment. Jealousy is so frightful and unattractive! Not all negative emotions are a waste; e.g. Guilt! Guilt is a negative emotion, somewhere you know you did something ethically or morally wrong and this bad feeling motivates you to seek forgiveness. Fear! It is also a negative emotion. But it's good to encounter it because it tells us to look before we leap. But jealousy! It's completely useless. A jealous person is always at a loss. When attacked by this emotion, remember that this negative emotion is a waste of your time and energy.
Jealousy is a useless emotion that can eat you alive and can go to an extent of breaking any strong relationship. But, unfortunately, jealousy is such a common emotion these days. People are living in a constant state of competition with themselves and one another. And at this fever pitch, jealousy is naturally bound to creep in, which can be detrimental to a human; it increases the negative feelings about oneself and the others around and can increase bitterness in relations with friends, family and loved ones. It is often your insecurity that holds you back from recognizing the good in others and complimenting them. An indifferent and a satisfied person knows how to compliment people, is generous with his compliments, often offers praise and words of encouragement.
People are insecure and jealous of people who are well achieved; having all the social graces, manners and other attainments, of people's look (especially in this time and age of social media!). So, jealousy clearly creeps in from the fear; fear of not being as good as the other person or fear of being inferior, which leads to the fear of loss, fear of betrayal, fear of rejection. We fear because it’s hard to back away from ourselves, it’s hard to realize that I am not the center of the Universe.
Jealousy is an inevitable emotion. Sometimes you're ahead and sometimes you're behind, just remember to count your blessings. When you are compelled to be disturbed by the circumstances, just withdraw yourself from that and quickly return to yourself. It is very rightly said that the quality of your life is decided by the quality of your thoughts. Your mind is a powerful tool and in no case allow that power to overpower you. Use it to your advantage. A few jealousy triggers here and there are healthy but if you are encountering them every now and then, it can repress you and take a toll on you, you have to have control over your mind. Redirect those negatives energies to self-improve. Let the jealousy go, and see the life turn good.